Inspirational Women Series #5 - Deidre Tavera

This month another truly inspiring woman who's passion is deeply rooted in improving peoples' lives as well as communities.  She says she has seen first hand the affect one person can make...

She is currently holding a director position with many responsibilities  and has a loving and supportive family - read below her story, her philosophy and how she juggles it all...

Can you give me a few sentences describing your current job and your prior experience as a non-for-profit consultant?   

I am currently Director of Strategic Planning and Development for Hartford Public Schools where I oversee institutional advancement activities including strategic and program planning, internal communications, district events, as well as, fund development and grants management. Prior to joining Hartford Public Schools, I owned a management consulting firm and, over an 8 year period, worked with over 30 diverse nonprofit organizations facilitating planning and designing implementation recommendations related to board governance, strategy, fundraising, operations, and organizational design.  Perhaps my most formative work experience in the nonprofit sector took place at The Bushnell Center for the Performing Arts where, over a 15 year period, I worked in various areas of the organization including marketing-communications, education, human resources, finance, programming, facility and general operations.

You have worked in non-profit for over 20 years - what drew you to this sector initially and what has kept you there?

My undergraduate degree is in psychology and through both my studies and my community activities during college (e.g. Big Brothers/Big Sisters) I became increasingly interested in the work of non-profit organizations because of the impact they have on people’s lives and the larger community. I just knew that in order to feel fulfilled, my work would need to align with my values and contribute to society in some way.  In addition, my parents both worked in education. My mom was a teacher and my dad an elementary school principal. Their work was very important to them and I saw firsthand that one person can make a significant difference in their communities.   

What do you see as the current opportunities (and/or needs) in your specific not-for-profit sector?

I am so very fortunate to be a part of the exciting school reform work at Hartford Public Schools.
Hartford Public Schools is one of a small group of districts across the country that has undertaken a comprehensive, strategic and bold reform effort to turnaround a poor performing district and significantly improving student achievement. Clearly, there is a major need in our country to focus our attention and resources on education – especially urban education. I believe that this needs to be a national priority not only for our children today but for the future health and success of our country.   

Which have been your most rewarding projects and why?

There are so many…I really like working on team-based projects.  There is nothing better than scoping out a challenge or opportunity to pursue with a group of staff members, colleagues or volunteers. Over a period of days, weeks or months, you can see the team form into a cohesive unit and successfully move the project forward.  In my early career, I served as a project leader on a community-wide fundraising event to raise awareness and support for local AIDS organizations.  Working with a diverse group of arts organizations, artists, community leaders, community based and faith organizations, and several local unions to pull off a major musical and theatrical event was one of the most challenging projects I have ever worked on. On that night when dancers, musicians, and actors came together to celebrate our community and to change perceptions about people with AIDs – it was worth it all!

What resources helped get you where you are now?

I have always been blessed to have wonderful mentors in my life. Most have been women and served both as advisors and friends. As a result, I now mentor young women when I have the opportunity. I think it is very important to help others maneuver through the world. It is incredible how much we learn over the years and this knowledge can be helpful to younger professionals. 

What do you find yourself doing during down time at work?    

I have three children, Kate (19), Evan (15) and Emma (11) – spending time with them and my husband, Frank, is where you’ll find me during off work hours.  I also volunteer and currently serve as Chair of the Women and Girls’ Fund of the Main Street Community Foundation in Bristol, CT and President of the St. Michael’s College Alumni Board.

What is your motto or a philosophy that you live by?

“Whatever it takes…”

How do you balance being a wife, mother and professional?  Any tips?

 
Exercise for stress relief and energy, sleep at least 7 (prefer 8) hours a night and have a supportive spouse/significant other/confidant who can help keep you in balance. Oh, and a good cup of coffee every morning!

Inspirational Women Series #4 - Andrea Ferry

I've had the pleasure of knowing Andrea for some years now.  I met her through my sister who she use to work with.  Andrea is an immediate inspiration to many of us who have known her.  I really enjoy her enthusiastic personality and energy for life.  Andrea is driven and tough yet personable. She was perfect to interview for this series.  After reading a bit about her, you'll see why...

·        You currently work in finance at Lincoln Financial Group – can you tell how us long you’ve been there and a bit about your position?    

I have been working for Lincoln Financial Group for 13 years and have had several positions ranging from customer service to sales to relationship management. My current position involves managing projects for the relationship management team.  My team works with consultants who help plan sponsors (institutions) look for the best fit for their retirement (401k/403b) plan.

·        You also were a national level figure competitor and ranked powerlifter in the past.  Who or what inspired you to participate and compete in this sport?

When I was 26, I met a man (Fairfax Hackley) who worked with Arnold Schawrzenager back in the past and said I had the shape for figure shows and that I should try it out.  He was involved in the Fitness/Figure/Bodybuilding Circuit so he had set me up with a lot of introductions.  Once I started winning regionally, I decided that I wanted to compete at the National Level, which was even more challenging.  That took the competition to a whole new level.

What were your proudest moments during this time?

My proudest moment at a regional was winning first place and overall in the NPC Empire State Kim Klein Fitness/Figure Championship.  The second proudest moment was making the “top 5” selection at the NPC Pittsburgh Show. 

Where there any particular challenges you faced?  

The biggest struggle for any competitor is the constant dedication to dieting and training. Everything that you put in your mouth was weighed, measured and on a schedule (also, there is no drinking alcohol).  The longer I competed, the more critical I was of my body and sometimes that can affect your mindset and confidence.

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Can you share some of your achievements over the years in this sport?

§  2002 LA Fitness Bencfh Press Champion

§  2003 North American Bodybuilding championships – Womens Shape and Figure – 1^st place

§  2005 GNC Metrx Pharmagenex Worldwide NPCRochester Figure Show – 1st Place

§  2006 NPC National Figure championships – 3^rd place

§  2006 Jim Rockwell/Powerhouse Gym Rochester Bodybulding Fitness and Figure Championships – 1^st place

§  Philadelphia Championship Greenwood Classic – 2^nd Place

§  2007 NPC Pittsburgh 4^th Place

§  2007 NPC Gaspari Nutrition Junior USA 5^th Place

§  WNPC – 1^st place 148 weight class – September 2010

§  WNPF – 1^st place 132 weight class – December 2010 (Deadlift 320 lbs, squat 290 lbs, bench 150 lbs)

·        Wow, that is pretty impressive!  For those of us who barely have enough energy to get off the couch, how did you manage juggling bodybuilding, working at Lincoln Financial and personal training?

        To be honest, it was a lot of work. I would do my cardio from 5:00am to 5:45am, go to work from 8:00am to 5:00pm, go home to train myself (another 45 minutes of lifting and another 45 minutes of cardio) and then train clients afterwards.  Then I would go to bed and start all over again the next day.  I had such a drive to help people be healthy and feel good about themselves.

·         And now you are currently a nutritional consultant.  How did you transition into this?  

            I started learning a lot about nutrition when I studied under my last coach for four years John Sheaffer.  I saw how he was able to transform his client’s bodies and became so intrigued that I started sitting in on all of his client consultations.  Overtime, I was able to take what I learned as a figure competitor, power lifter and trainer and apply it to the average person.  It is amazing; the smallest changes in your nutrition can have a HUGE positive effect.  I saw people struggle with “diets” so I changed the way I spoke about getting in shape and eating better by giving people a nutrition plan and performance goals, versus purely aesthetic goals.  Aesthetic goals are simply a byproduct.  I also do not let my clients get on the scale – we use a measuring tape measure progress by how their clothes fit.   There is so much information in the market that people get overwhelmed – I keep it simple for my clients.

·         How would you describe your personality?

I would describe myself as outgoing, caring and absolutely loving life. I love helping people feel good about their bodies and lighting them up inside... I love to make people smile and laugh.

Who are two closest people to you and why?

The two people closest to me would be my parents (I count them as one!) and my best friend from college Andrea Clidy (yes we have the same name). My Mom and Dad always believe in me and support whatever dream I am focusing on. 

Andrea and I have share a love for fitness and health and are in the process of making that passion a national, and eventually international, business.

         What are your current passions in life?  What motivates you?

Helping people feel good naked motivates me to provide my nutritional advice at a larger scale then it is today. There is nothing better than helping people feel good every day of their lives whether it is through nutrition, physical training or life coaching.  I like to surround myself with positive people who want more in life than to just focus on themselves. I attend inspirational seminars and try to find ways to help people live a more balanced life. Now that I have put my figure and powerlifting days behind me, it is time to give that knowledge to others and serve a greater purpose in life.

An Amazingly Inspirational Woman - Thanks to Andrea and Enjoy your Spirit for Living!

Inspirational Women Series #3 - Sarah McBrair

This month, in the spirit of meeting new people, I'm excited to highlight Sarah McBrair.  I had the pleasure of meeting her at the Young Designers Market in New York City this past summer.  We sat back to back selling our wares to locals and tourists alike.  And mid way through, I noticed her lovely jewelry - very classy.  So being a bit nosy, I leaned over to introduce myself and from there we started chatting.  It was exciting to hear about her endeavors as an entrepreneur doing something she really love.  As I continue down the road to my dreams, it is just the inspiration you need to be surrounded by.  When you follow your dreams, you always need advocates, trustworthy partners and true friends.


Can you tell us a bit about your business, Love of Pretty?

Love of Pretty is a unique, handmade, fashionable gemstone jewelry company. We specialize in “Design Your Own Jewelry” working with women to create custom pieces of jewelry. We take pride in hand-picking our materials and designing perfectly pretty pieces.

The purpose of  the brand is meant to be an easy way to make women feel pretty and give them an easy new look.

What inspired you to launch your business?

I was a marketing professional in the corporate world for seven years and knew I always wanted to do something for myself.  After designing jewelry as a hobby and passion for many years, it just clicked as the right business for me.

I have always loved to help my friends accessorize.  I love to base designs off of people’s personalities. The “Design Your Own” component of my business is my favorite. It is easy to find the perseverance and motivation when you choose an avenue you naturally love! Even when I am watching movies or just out an about I just stare down people’s jewelry…I can’t help it.

Why do you love doing what you do?  

It is the feeling I get when I see a customer’s eyes light up or have such a genuine reaction to the way they look when they try on a piece of jewelry they love is another one of my favorite parts of this whole experience.

I was recently at a holiday show in Old Lyme CT and I met a woman who you could tell just needed a little pick-me-up. She tried on a chunky pearl and citrine necklace.  When she looked in the mirror she smiled and her whole face lit up. It was the perfect necklace for her.  Right away other women looking at the jewelry made remarks about the necklace “That looks so pretty” or “that necklace was made for you” it’s moments like these that I get such a rush and feel so satisfied that I am genuinely helping women feel their best, I love it!

What challenges did you face in the beginning?

Everything took longer then I would have liked. When you start a business you want all your ideas up and running right away.  I have learned now everything takes time….but is worth the wait!

How do you define success?

Success is happiness. Being happy in your current position and reminding yourself all the time that is the most important thing in life.

What is a typical weekday like for you? 

Write a blog, post a Facebook update, sprint around New York City to find new materials, design new jewelry, take photos, send out orders….repeat!

When you are not running around…What do you do to unwind? 

My husband Brad and I have a three year old Gold Retriever, 'Russell', I pretty much give him all my attention!  We take two to three walks a day….well when it’s nice out.


Thanks Sarah for being an inspiration to those of us out there who are starting a business, are growing a business or dreaming of it!  Thank you for sharing your Spirit!!

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A Day in the City with ‘Super Eco Girl’…

It’s an absolutely gorgeous Saturday and I’ve started the day by finishing up a juicy murder mystery on my Kindle before heading out the door just before 9am.  Along with my purse, I always carry a spare cotton bag to carry any of my day’s purchases (I just hate all those plastic bags…).

Today I have quite a list going – “to do’s” of which several will become “ to - didn’t really have time for that on this beautiful sunny day” before long.  But first, I’m headed only a few blocks away where several vintage and thrift shop stores line the street.

How lucky I am to have great vintage and thrift shops.  These are not the old, dusty shops that feel like you’re rummaging through your grandmother’s attic.  These shops are clean, neat, even some with trendy décor.  Racks are full of dresses, skirts, many well know designers such as DVF; gently worn, that are great to get another few years use out of. 

After raking through hangers of clothes from the shops in my neighborhood, I’m ready for some lunch.  Never a shortage of places to eat, but a favorite of mine is Caravan of Dreams.  The food is all organic, vegan and kosher certified so I know no pesky chemicals will enter my body today.  I order a glass of the sangria and the Caravan Burrito which is oh so yummy!

On TV, in magazines and other media I often see the "top 10" tips to being green or eco-friendly…and rarely do I see or hear “natural or organic eating” on the list.  Eating natural, whole foods and avoiding processed foods, is a key factor in helping the environment.  Why?  One example is chemicals used in farming and food production.  Many chemicals cannot be disposed of, leaving residue or traces in our drinking water, our produce and our animals. Heavy topic but in short eating whole non processed foods can make you feel energetic and healthy as well as helping the environment.

Last week, I was at this party wearing my new (lightly used) favorite top and some awkward individual’s can of beer tipped to far forward onto my sleeve.  So off next to the dry cleaners….

Many organic and natural dry cleaners have popped up in the last year.  Why did they start appearing? Well, interestingly the major synthetic chemical used in dry cleaning is linked with several side effects such as irritation of the skin, eyes, nose and throat.  It can also cause dizziness, headaches and nausea.  So due to more public scrutiny and the EPA watching, the industry has started to look for safer, less harmful ways to dry clean.   It turns out that California plans to phase out the major synthetic chemical used called perc by 2023.

And how fast the afternoon has come and I’m a little spent - looking for a nice bench to park on for a bit.  Many parks hide in and around the pavement of the city.  I walk past this small neighborhood one and find a small little quiet area.  It's lovely - surrounded by lush plants and newly planted tulips and other spring flowers.  I take out my Kindle and try to find another great murder mystery to start….

Connecting with Others - In the Spirit for Living!

February brought one can be the most romantic of holidays - Valentine’s Day. Many receive tokens of love in the form of candy, chocolates, roses and for those lucky ones, perhaps a spa treatment…I’m really due for one. But what I always make sure to remind myself and others – it’s as important to give love to others as it is to ‘love you’. Loving yourself means taking a few minutes out of every day to stay in tune with your needs, your wants, your hopes and dreams.


I just moved back into New York City from a long stint in the suburbs. I was drawn to all that the city offers – culture, interesting people, the amazing Central Park. It promised a new and exciting day in what was increasing becoming a mid-thirties life crisis (hopefully this won’t become a decennium habit). So with all this excitement, came trying to find fellow Manhattan’ites who I could eventually call a friend. I’ve moved many times before but each time does not make it any easier. Short of wearing a sign that says ‘befriend me, I’m not weird or crazy’, what can we do to connect with our fellow man/woman?

Connecting with people is so important because staying fit also includes a fit mind. Nutrition, work/life balance and keeping active are all key factors, of course. But for me and most others, I believe connecting with people on various levels is a major piece of the equation.

Past moves have led me to the following strategies to meet new people:

Meetup.com

I actually first heard of this site a few years ago from a childhood friend who had recently become a mother. She found a nice group of other newbie moms in the area to meet up with.

I went on to the site and typed in New York and was pleasantly surprised to see quite a few interesting groups – from the eccentric to traditional mommies and sport groups – there seems to be something for almost everyone. I’d probably lean more to a sport or movie or language where I wouldn’t (or couldn’t) be put on the spot as soon as I joined.

RentAFriend.com

This is a site is one I literally just heard about from a friend of a friend. They are considering a cross country move, where they would be starting fresh. So they mentioned this site as a way they could start meeting and getting introduced to locals.

Upon visiting their site (which I must admit is a bit cheesy) I feel that I’d need some references of those who have tried this successfully….the fact that the images of people look like they’re from college may speak to only certain groups of people.

Professional associations

I like these because I’m achieving two goals – helping to meet new people and also helping with professional development. So if you’re a full time career woman, you can find someone to gab to about how the economy has affected your industry as well as perhaps grab a drink after work with. There are associations for almost every trade – all you have to do is go to a search engine to research.

Take a class at your local community college

This one is always classic – I’ve taken quite a few classes over the years. It’s helped keep my mind fresh, my resume stand out and also extend my network.

Try a free trial at your local gym

Most gyms have a free day trial (some two days or longer). A day at the gym at least makes your body feel good and by chance you can end up talking to the person next to you in the locker room about what they think of being a member. It could end up being a future gym buddy.

If you are spiritual or religious – try a class or study group

Anything from a Bible study class to a meditation or yoga class - people that attend these types of classes are typically a little more open minded and friendly towards newcomers. It can be a way to cleanse your soul as well as find a little companionship.

Community work or volunteering

Lastly, I’ve found if I’m feeling down or lonely, take the focus off me. I’ve found myself doing various volunteering over the years. I’ve done everything from the soup kitchen to reading to children during lunchtime. There are so many great efforts and initiatives out there, helping so many people, it’s just a great way to focus outwards and also to meet some other really great people. (Try http://charitynavigator.org/ to research charities for volunteerism or donation.)



Really, meeting new people is a bit chance and a bit enough bravery to say ‘hello’ to another human being. It is sometimes difficult to overcome the thought of rejection but the few times I’ve dared, I have had at the very least a polite exchange. But I can honestly say that other times; I have met the most interesting people and the closest friends.

Drive your Spirit for Living!

Inspirational Woman #1 - Cynthia Cook

Every year as Thanksgiving passes I take some time to reflect, even if only fleetingly, on what I'm thankful for.

I have to say that even though an occasional vacation comes up high on that list - I always come back to being thankful for the wonderful people in my life.

One of my goals for the Spirit for Living blog was to highlight women who I find to be truly inspiring. There are women around us who are doing really amazing things and I want to take this opportunity to shine a light on what they are doing, in the hopes that their stories will provide some inspiration to others. We all have special qualities, great achievements and inspirational stories - my goal is to feature these - one great woman at a time!

Sometimes I do get wrapped up in work, work and more work and realize many of us don't have to look far to get a little pick me up - a little inspiration from the women who surround us.

The first Inspirational Woman that I'd like to "introduce" you to is Cynthia Cook from Philadelphia, PA. Cynthia, 29, is a poet, artist, business woman, and student, who is passionate about spirituality and service to others. Cynthia manages to blend all of her interests into a well balanced and inspiring life. She also my sister - a huge part of my life and immensely inspiring to me. I am happy to be able to share her with you!

What do you do in a typical weekday? I try to live my life by a ‘simple is better’ motto. It keeps me grounded. I am a business professional with a penchant for marketing. So the majority of my day is spent in an office. After work, I love to unwind by cooking a nice, fresh, home cooked dinner. I also unwind by working out and try to do so about three times a week.. I use to run a great deal and I am trying to get back into it.

I know you are active in your community, what kinds of things do you do? I keep myself as immersed in the community and serving others as much as possible. I am the co-chair of my company’s Employee Activity Committee, which involves coordinating various service activities throughout the year. I helped coordinate several drives this year including a coat drive, clothing drive, blood drive, United Way Day of Service, Philadelphia Cares Day, and a back-to-school collection drive. I enjoyed every minute of it.

What do you do to unwind on the weekends?
As an MBA student, studying is a big part of my life right now and I am trying to stay focused and absorb as much as possible. I am really enjoying what I am learning and am excited about how I can use it both currently and in the future.

I also spend some of my weekend time on occasional freelance writing. I enjoy writing poetry when possible.

I am active with my alumni association, currently serving as the Treasurer. I am very passionate about education, particularly because it can eradicate social and economic barriers. It can empower. I am very involved with my undergraduate university’s local alumni chapter.

I also enjoy spending time with my family and friends, working out, going out to a relaxing late brunch at a local café. I enjoy staying home and curling up in bed to watch a movie on Friday nights, or go to a familiar favorite restaurant Saturday night. Absolutely, anything chill – my brain is tired!!

What are you two or three passions in life?
It's hard to narrow it down to just a few, I am passionate about so many things!

One of my strongest passions is spirituality and building a stronger relationship with God through Jesus Christ. I am a very spiritual person and aspire to be a better Christian every day. I am constantly on a quest for self-improvement. I am currently trying to be a better student of the Bible and study scripture to uncover even greater truth.

I also love helping and mentoring others, particular those who truly need help. I have been very involved in various not-for-profit organizations over the past few years.

Art is another of my loves - I have always been very artistic. I love the visual arts - going to plays, to see the orchestra, as well as fine arts. I love to go to the museum, my favorite artists is Gustav Klimt and I love Degas’ sculptures. I am hoping to do some painting and mosaics once I finish my graduate studies next May. I am trying to create my own art to decorate my house and have recently made some wall art for my bedroom and will do more soon.

What do you feel have been your two major achievements to date?
Education is so important to me, I am proud that I have an undergraduate degree and I am almost finished my MBA.

Finding ways to balance career, family, personal interests, and philanthropy can be truly challenging so I consider it an accomplishment that I feel I am doing a good job keeping all of these areas nurtured and present in my life.

What is the best piece of advice you ever received?
My favorite quote is, “Expect nothing and everything you receive is a gift.” This encouragement to be grateful has been extremely valuable in my life.

Who inspires you? What improves your 'spirit'?
Jesus, the Bible, my family and close positive friends inspire me. I have a few women role models outside of my family that I admire and respect. Good people inspire me. I am always trying to grow and learn how to be a better person.

Listening to music, being with my best friend, being silly and just having fun improve my spirit.

How did you get into writing poetry? I have been writing for over 15 years.. I used to write a lot of short stories when I was young - like 10 or 12. I have been writing every since. I enjoy expressing myself through writing and art

What advice do you have for other women?
Respect those that came before you - they are a source of wisdom. Help those that come after you - they represent the future.

Be thankful, be positive, be humble, be respectful, be simple, be a role model.

Enjoy a good laugh often...enjoy the adventure of your life!

Welcome to Spirit for Living!

Thank you for joining us! Spirit for Living is an exclusive line of women’s daily and active wear that is made just for you, and we want to use this forum to talk to you about things that matter to you!

Everything we do at Spirit for Living is based on a few key principals:

• Bodies are best when living an active life.
• Clothes should be designed for comfort without sacrificing style.
• Natural fabrics are best for your body and the environment.
• Love for the earth and for each other are keys to happiness.
• Lives of women around the globe can be improved by supporting healthy lifestyles and philanthropic efforts.

Spirit for Living specializes in bringing you clothes that will become your favorites. Things that you can wear anywhere - the office, the gym, playing with your children (or acting as their chauffeur!) or even a casual night out.

Affordable and beautiful clothes to highlight your SPIRIT.

But beyond the clothes that you wear, we want to support you in the life that you lead.

So here on our blog we will offer up tips for healthy living and ways to juggle and balance your busy lives. We will talk about the benefits of natural fabrics for your skin, the environment, industry, farmers and agriculture. We will talk about the charitable organizations that we support and we will highlight women who are doing things that inspire and amaze us.

We will post something here every month and we look forward to interacting with you on our Facebook page as well.

Our fall line is complete and filled with naturals and organics – cozy fabrics perfect for the cool weather that is just around the corner. We will be open for ordering on our website in August 2010 so stay tuned for our website launch and special promotions for our first customers!

Keep checking back, we look forward to an exciting future with you!